Phases Of Life
12 Apr
Sometimes I tend to wonder how my life would be if I didn’t get pregnant. Minus the nappy duties, everyday chaos of looking after a baby, restrictions on outings, the lack of sleep, I sometimes stop briefly to wonder, what if we were still without a baby? How would life be?
My cousins would sometimes come over and spontaneously plan for an outing. Naturally the hubby and I would have to step back and tell them to go ahead because we need to look after the baby. Things no doubt have changed. Being spontaneous is no longer a word we are familiar with. Most events/occasions takes planning though I have to say I’m starting to love doing so 
This is why I love my facebook account (and blog too). Although I don’t necessarily update my status(es) from time to time, I have a penchant of uploading my photos for keep sake. Because as I flip though my albums one by one, I’ve realized each photo and album has a story to say. It is a constant reminder to myself that we’ve had our share of fun (from clubbing, boozing, chilling out with friends and travelling) and it’s just time to move into a different phase of life. It is a natural cycle of life indeed like it or not and most deifnitely requires a bit of time adjusting to it.
I remember the time when I got married. I was one of the first among my friends to be married. I was only 25 (okay about to turn 26). While others were busy being wined and dined in the company of men, I was already moving onto a new phase of just one man and starting my married journey with a commitment that would be with me for LIFE, lol. At that point of time, I had that same feeling telling me this-is-too-soon-this-is-too-soon, while you’re being married, see how others are enjoying their life. Years later, it’s safe to say everyone else also jumped into the marriage wagon, one by one making us all be in the same phase of life: Marriagehood
Then I got pregnant. Also the first among my friends. Then one by one, these married couples also started having a baby bringing us to the next phase of life: Parenthood. Obviously there are MAJOR changes. We become more reponsible, we worry about finances, we look for jobs that can pay us more so we can provide better, we just want to give and buy the best of things for our little one, we don’t club anymore, we don’t go on holidays often, we watch what we spend our money on, we just change. For the better.
They say change is the only thing that is constant in life. We can either choose to go with the flow or resist it. With a new phase of life, comes changes. Good ones. It is also an indicator of ageing. Growing up. Gaining more life experiences - bitter and sweet ones. Without which, there won’t be an advancement to a new phase. How long can one go on partying, how long can you live life without a care in the world. At some point, it stops. And you grow up.
So what next after the baby phase. Baby no 2 phase of life? Hmm, not too sure about that yet. Although something tells me we’ll still be the first one among our friends, again, lol.
But one thing for sure I miss our random little holidays. I loved that part to bits and I miss it from time to time. However, I am positively sure it will resume once the little one is a bit bigger. Now that’s a change and most certainly a phase I look forward to – to watch my baby girl’s delight and curiousity as we explore new places with her cute lil PINK back pack on :D
nice one there.. life has changed and how! Lets look at the bright side and know that we have used our ‘youth’ to do things we enjoy
i always tell hubby that during our times of feeling tired and down
and believe me, given a choice, now u would never want to spend even a second without existence of your little one
Thanks. Haha yea most definitely agree with you on using our youth to do the things we wanted to do. We’re still young though, hehe.
Definitely. Always look forward to going home to cuddle and kiss her and I’m sure it’s the same for every parent
Your post is so touching :o).
Reminds me of the phase I am going through now (minus the baby)…
LOL, phew such effect I have
Yup, guess everyone goes through the same phase, eventually!
I can SO relate to this. There are so many things that I miss — getting enough sleep, having a long leisurely bath, going to saloon for hairwash (haha!!), shopping on weekends, shopping in sogo after work
going out for dinner (heck even just going out at nite!), watching movie in cinema, watching a proper program on tv from start to finish, hanging out at my sister’s place playing wt my niece… Life certainly has changed. It’s different, but it’s certainly more enriched now. I just have to see Nikhil smile or hear him laugh and know it’s so worth it. I keep reminding myself that he’s growing so fast, and very soon I will be able to do all those things I miss… Well maybe not all but at least some of it 
SAME HERE, I think end of the day we just miss the spontaneity of it all. So many things I miss as well, I’ve not done my hair in months, even getting a pedicure thesedays needs ample planning, I’ve not stepped into alot of malls think I’ll be totally lost if I did. Yea my mom keeps telling me not to worry, that eventually we’ll be able to do all these things but still, it won’t be the same. I think just when we’re about to settle in and do these things, we’ll probably be pregnant with another one, LOL.
well, what u’re going through is just like any other couple is going through.. moving forward, starting a new life cycle.. u’ve gone to the phase of parenthood!
i guess i’m moving backwards ~sigh~ but then, it is fun too! haha..
I wonder what comes after parenthood, hehe.
Eh don’t say that la, this is just a fresh new beginning for you, to meet that someone that was meant just for you
But you’re most definitely having fun and you deserve every minute of it 
This is one of your best posts to date
I can so relate to it. I’m too comfortable in my current spot to think about marriage. Getting so much of pressure from relatives (not my parents actually, they’re pretty understanding) and it’s getting very, very irritating to be lectured about how I have to be young to chase after children and stuff.
I think I’m not very good at dealing with change :/
Thanks babe. Aah the relative pressure – trust me it’s all normal. You just do what you have to do. I wasn’t good at dealing with change as well, the first big change for me was marriage and everything else just fell into place. You’ll get used to it :)Eventually, hehe.