Social Life While Being Parents
3 Aug
One of the things we try to do at this point is take Sairah everywhere we go. And she expects to be taken together as well 
But then there are days where it’s hard to bring a toddler out. For instance, when the hubby’s cousin was down from the US a month ago, we wanted to meet up for dinner and drinks in Changkat BB the night before he left. And mind you, I was like a village girl just being around Changkat BB coz it’s been ages since we’ve did this whole dinner and drinks thing. So I asked my mom if it was okay if we left Sairah with her that night. Times like that I do feel a lil guilty, because as it is my mom is already taking care of my naughty brat on weekdays when we’re at work.
Of course mom being mom, she graciously is more than happy to take care of Sairah for us.
That night, I remember getting ready at my parent’s place (we still went to their place after work to spend some time with her beforehand) and when I came down, she noticed I was dressed and thought she was going out with us too. Probably to the mall. For Moo Cow
She got down from the sofa and walked towards the stairs with intentions of going up to change and said ‘put pretty dress mommy’. My heart just sank and I could see it was the same for the husband too. When we told her she wasn’t coming with us and stepped outside to leave, she started crying her head off calling for ‘mommy’ like as though we were being separated for good!! I had to carry her and calm her down but she kept crying and clinging onto me obviously not happy that mommy and daddy were going out without her. So we kissed her quickly and left.
Sigh.
It was heart-breaking. But when I texted my mom 5 minutes later, she reassured me Sairah was all fine and dandy, not sure to laugh or cry at this point!
And then last week, my bestie had come from Jakarta so a meet up was most definitely due since it’s been AGES since we last saw each other. Again, when I came down all dressed, baby girl somehow knew she wasn’t coming (since she was still in her house clothes), she quickly told me ‘take out the button’ referring to my button down top – I’m pretty sure it was her way to say take off your going out clothes and stay at home!!
We had another crying please-don’t-go-mommy situation to deal with. Double sigh. And again, after checking with my mom, she said Sairah was happily playing away with her toys. Which is good in a way because I can’t imagine my baby girl crying for me the whole time.
Having a social life while being a parent is tough I tell you! I think that is why a lot of people find themselves drifting apart from friends who have kids. It’s hard to keep up. At one end there’s the kid to attend to, then the other – to attend to friends. So sometimes if possible I do it the easiest way – just come over to the apt! Sairah can play in her room and the adults can chat/eat/drink away in the living room with Sairah occasionally running around asking for attention. But of course sometimes there’s no denying, it’s really nice to go out some place nice for a change, not often (coz it can get expensive) but once in a while :D And to show you just how old we are, on both ocassions we were back home even before the clock turned 12. To our defense it was both on a weekday :D Plus if it wasn’t for my parents, I think we would have a negative zero social life too!
Anyway, some photos of the night.
The boys @ GariBar – no loud clubs, no places with excessive smoking, no loud music, no drunk people around – we are now those oldies who just want a quiet place to sit and TALK!
My camera setting was rather wonky hence these bad quality photos.
Just the three of us coz someone ffk-ed the last minute!
The happy bride future groom! Counting down the days to the wedding, am sure it’s gonna be a GREAT one. And am still amazed on how many countries he intends to take this wife for a honeymoon. Rich kid, hmpf!
Friends for 7 years and counting……..we may not see each other often as we like thesedays, but it’s always to gossip pick up where we left off when we do.
Guess now I gotta ‘put pretty dress’ for baby girl and take her out for Moo Cow And of course take mom out for a thank you dinner, just because 
The trick we always use is get MIL to bring Bubs out for a walk and when they’re away, we quietly slip out ourselves, LOL
LOL well for me I would rather not have MIL around, hehe. But looks like it works well for you
Poor Sairah. Poor baby.
To be honest, I am trying hard not to think of the freedom I have to lose once mine is out. Lucky you, you have your parents. I want to send her back- via DHL. Jove won’t be happy with my decision
No la, she drama for a while only, she was fine after that. Oh yes, enjoy everything now, you still got some months to go! LOL aren’t you planning on coming back here for the first few months so your mom can help jaga?
For me it’s like what social life? I’m just glad I lived my single life pretty fun, now I got nothing to complain, and bring the kids along everywhere we go,
Oh yes, that’s one thing I always say too – how we had enough fun before baby arrived and thank god for that. Anyway that’s life eh.
I totally hear you on this one Shan
You know I do..we always have this whole crying drama and me/him feeling guilty and my folks getting agitated scenes too. Many a times we actually make it out successfully to wherever is it, that we are going only to wonder out aloud to each other, what could she be up to right now? Would she have eaten? Would she have given mom/dad a hard time? What would she have done, had we brought her along? I mean the list just goes on and on 
Sometimes I wonder if there’s anything at all apart from Tarraniya that we talk about when we are away from her on the very few occasions !!! 
Hey same here same hereee, it’s like you wanna go out and have some time to yourself but you still can’t coz our minds are still thinking about the little one which makes you wonder if we should have taken her out together in the first place. Oh well! We probably think too much, coz I know Sairah does have a ball when she’s with her grandma and grandpa. I’m sure it’s the same with Tarra too.
You know what really makes me like.. love your blogs very much is that most of the time I can really relate to it or at least few months down the road, I can relate to it coz my baby girl would do just that which you would describe in your blogs…
Shopping, outing, holidays, dining, etc is done with baby girl and am not complaining coz if she is not with us, we really do miss her, except for those meet ups where we really can’t take her, then no regrets… but maybe feel a little guilty coz my parents are looking after..
Thanks thanks, you’re too kind with yr compliments
I think it helps that Sairah is older than Dhanya so eventually there will come a point where you’ll experience the same thing. Which goes to show how most kids are the same eh?
I know right? I think the guilt is there la, coz I hate to leave her with my mom so maybe I should target my sis. LOL. I guess there’s perks if you’re in a big family, can get them to help take care sometimes. But yea, sure is fun taking them out, but it can be tiring too.